Gaslighting Test – Are You Being Manipulated?

By onlinetoolkit / 31 July 2025

Gaslighting Assessment Quiz

Identify Signs of Emotional Manipulation and Psychological Abuse

Instructions: This assessment helps you identify potential gaslighting behaviors in your relationships. Think about one specific person in your life as you answer each question. Choose the response that best describes your experience with this individual. This test is for educational purposes and should not replace professional mental health advice.

This person frequently tells me that I’m remembering events incorrectly or that things didn’t happen the way I recall them.

Always – This happens constantly in our interactions Often – This occurs regularly, several times a week Sometimes – This happens occasionally, maybe once a week Rarely – This has happened a few times Never – This person doesn’t do this

When I express my feelings or concerns, this person dismisses them by saying I’m “too sensitive,” “overreacting,” or “being dramatic.”

Always – My feelings are consistently invalidated Often – This happens most times I share my feelings Sometimes – This occurs when I bring up certain topics Rarely – This has happened on a few occasions Never – This person validates my feelings

This person denies saying or doing things that I clearly remember, even when I have evidence or witnesses.

Always – They deny everything despite clear evidence Often – Denial happens frequently, even with proof Sometimes – They deny things when confronted Rarely – This has happened a few times Never – They acknowledge their words and actions

I find myself constantly questioning my own judgment, memory, and perception of reality when dealing with this person.

Always – I constantly doubt myself around them Often – I frequently question my own perceptions Sometimes – I occasionally doubt myself Rarely – This happens infrequently Never – I trust my own perceptions

This person blames me for their negative behavior, suggesting that if I acted differently, they wouldn’t treat me this way.

Always – Everything is somehow my fault Often – I’m blamed for most of their reactions Sometimes – They blame me when things go wrong Rarely – This has happened occasionally Never – They take responsibility for their actions

I feel like I’m “walking on eggshells” around this person, constantly worried about their reaction to my words or actions.

Always – I’m constantly anxious around them Often – I frequently feel on edge Sometimes – I’m cautious in certain situations Rarely – This feeling occurs occasionally Never – I feel comfortable being myself

This person isolates me from friends, family, or support systems by creating conflict or making me feel guilty about spending time with others.

Always – I’m completely isolated from others Often – They frequently interfere with my relationships Sometimes – They discourage certain relationships Rarely – This has happened a few times Never – They support my other relationships

When confronted about their behavior, this person changes the subject, deflects, or turns the conversation back on me.

Always – They never address the actual issue Often – Deflection is their usual response Sometimes – They avoid accountability at times Rarely – This happens occasionally Never – They address issues directly

I find myself apologizing frequently, even for things that aren’t my fault, when interacting with this person.

Always – I apologize for everything Often – I frequently say sorry unnecessarily Sometimes – I apologize to avoid conflict Rarely – This happens occasionally Never – I only apologize when appropriate

This person tells me that others think I’m “crazy,” “unstable,” or “difficult,” making me feel isolated and misunderstood.

Always – They constantly tell me others think poorly of me Often – They frequently mention others’ negative opinions Sometimes – They occasionally make these comments Rarely – This has happened a few times Never – They don’t make such statements

I feel confused about this person’s behavior because they can be loving and supportive one moment, then critical and manipulative the next.

Always – Their behavior is extremely unpredictable Often – I’m frequently confused by their mood swings Sometimes – Their behavior is inconsistent Rarely – This happens occasionally Never – Their behavior is consistent

This person minimizes or trivializes my achievements, goals, or important life events.

Always – Nothing I do is ever good enough Often – My accomplishments are regularly dismissed Sometimes – They downplay certain achievements Rarely – This has happened a few times Never – They celebrate my successes

I avoid sharing my thoughts, feelings, or experiences with others because I’m afraid they won’t believe me or will think I’m overreacting.

Always – I never share what’s really happening Often – I frequently keep things to myself Sometimes – I’m selective about what I share Rarely – This happens occasionally Never – I feel comfortable sharing my experiences

This person makes me feel like I need their permission or approval for basic decisions about my own life.

Always – I can’t make any decisions without them Often – I seek their approval for most decisions Sometimes – I feel I need their input on important matters Rarely – This feeling occurs occasionally Never – I make my own decisions confidently

I feel like I’ve lost my sense of self and am becoming someone I don’t recognize since being in this relationship.

Always – I don’t recognize myself anymore Often – I feel like I’m losing myself Sometimes – I notice changes in myself Rarely – This feeling occurs occasionally Never – I feel true to myself

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